Using Tina can iso­late you from the rest of society.
If you’re seri­ous about quit­ting, you’ll need to recon­nect with men again.
Talk­ing about it and ask­ing oth­ers for help is an essen­tial step.
You can do so with fam­i­ly mem­bers, friends or with men who’ve been through the process.



Fam­i­ly mem­bers and friends
Sup­port groups
Get­ting help
Chem­sex health­care support



Fam­i­ly mem­bers and friends

Those close to you are like­ly to have lit­tle or no idea about the extent of your drug use.
But do not try to stay sober in the closet!
You need peo­ple around you to sup­port your new lifestyle.
They can’t offer sup­port if they don’t know what you’re going through.

Trust those who main­tain their support.
Con­fide only in peo­ple out­side the sex scene.
Always be com­plete­ly honest.
You’ll find that it actu­al­ly brings you closer.
Talk­ing open­ly about it can bring up some of the under­ly­ing emotions.

The Ver­slaafd aan Jou Foun­da­tion offers infor­ma­tion, advice and sup­port to friends and fam­i­ly mem­bers of (ex)users.
For more infor­ma­tion, vis­it: verslaafdaanjou.nl



Sup­port groups

Reach out to men who’ve expe­ri­enced what you’re going through.
Shar­ing your expe­ri­ences will allow you to sup­port one anoth­er, and you’ll feel less lonely.
You’ll also be able to dis­cuss things that you can’t talk about with friends or family.
Seek inspi­ra­tion in men who’ve man­aged to quit and now enjoy a life of sobriety.
It helps to see live evi­dence that it’s pos­si­ble to quit for good.
At the same time, you can also be of ser­vice to others.
It’s also a good place to make new, sober friends.

Ini­tial appre­hen­sion about sup­port groups is a com­mon reaction.
You may think such meet­ings aren’t for you.
How­ev­er, most men even­tu­al­ly find them a great source of support.
Just lis­ten­ing is enough to help you expe­ri­ence a bond and feel supported.
These meet­ings will show you that you needn’t go through this alone, and that there are men around to help you.
Try a few dif­fer­ent groups to see which feels most comfortable.
Once you find one, stick with the group for at least three months to get the most out of it.

Read more about the var­i­ous sources of support:

    • Nar­cotics Anonymous
      NA meet­ings take place in many places in the Netherlands.
      They are group meet­ings for men who’ve quit drugs and want to remain sober.
      The meet­ings involve lis­ten­ing to one another’s stories.
      Those who’ve been sober for long often act as mentors.
      The meet­ings are attend­ed by ex-users of any kind of drug.
      You don’t men­tion which drug you used.
      The con­nec­tion with sex isn’t dis­cussed, either.
      Men of all ages, social back­grounds and sex­u­al pref­er­ences attend the meetings.
      Spe­cial LGBT meet­ings exist in some of the larg­er cities with size­able gay scenes.
      For more infor­ma­tion on NA meet­ings, please vis­it na-holland.nl
  • Crys­tal Meth Anonymous
    Ams­ter­dam offers a ded­i­cat­ed group for men who’ve used Tina: Crys­tal Meth Anonymous.
    It’s sim­i­lar to NA, except here the con­nec­tion between Tina and sex is on the agenda.
    The group meets every Sat­ur­day between 12:30 and 13:30 at Jacob Obrecht­straat 92 in Ams­ter­dam and every Tues­day between 19:00 and 20:00 at Sint Jansstraat 41 (Trea­sure House) in Amsterdam.
    For more infor­ma­tion, please vis­it: crystalmethanonymous.nl (in Dutch)
  • Main­line Chem­sex drop in
    Main­lines chem­sex team offers one-on-one con­tact as well as  group dis­cus­sions for gay and bi-men who’ve quit tak­ing chems dur­ing sex.
    In a pri­vate and con­fi­den­tial set­ting,  men can talk freely about things like lone­li­ness, sex with­out chems and how to han­dle dat­ing apps.
    The empha­sis is on shar­ing experiences.
    The drop in takes place every 1st wednes­day (for guys who quit/would like to quit) and 3rd wednes­day (for guys who still use and are look­ing for self-con­trol) of the month between 19:00 and 22:00 hrs at Fred­erik Hen­drik­straat 111 in Ams­ter­dam. You don’t have to sign up to participate..
    For more infor­ma­tion and dates, vis­it: mainline.nl Would you like one-on-one con­tact (also pos­si­ble dur­ing office hours)? Mail to chemsex@mainline.nl 
  • Chem­sex coach De Regenboog
    The Rain­bow Group Ams­ter­dam (De Regen­boog Groep) offers coach­es for men who’ve quit tak­ing chems dur­ing sex.
    They lis­ten with­out judg­ing, pro­vide what­ev­er help they can, and are there for you if you need com­pa­ny for social activities.
    They offer all this on the basis of their own experience.
    All the coach­es are knowl­edge­able about Tina and slamming.
    They know the ropes because they them­selves have been depen­dent on drugs in the past.
    They know exact­ly how demand­ing absti­nence is, and how eas­i­ly you’re trig­gered when you’ve only recent­ly quit.
    Your coach helps you to fig­ure out how to achieve your goals.
    For more infor­ma­tion or to request a coach: deregenboog.org (in Dutch)




Get­ting help

You may con­clude that you need pro­fes­sion­al assis­tance with quitting.
Such help is avail­able through a vari­ety of sources.

Tina and slam­ming are rel­a­tive­ly new phe­nom­e­na in the Netherlands.
Not all drug sup­port ser­vices are famil­iar with the use of chems dur­ing sex.
That doesn’t mean they can’t or won’t want to help you.
Lots of men ben­e­fit from main­stream drug sup­port services.
Just don’t expect them to be deeply knowl­edge­able about your spe­cif­ic concerns.
By talk­ing to pro­fes­sion­als, you will be get­ting things off your chest, and they will be able to offer you infor­ma­tion con­cern­ing dependence.
As a bonus, you’ll be expand­ing their knowledge.

There are lots of drug treat­ment facil­i­ties in the Netherlands.
Check out a few and enquire about their meth­ods to see which feels right for you.

Your basic health insur­ance pack­age cov­ers a wide range of treat­ments and consultations.
Check your health insur­ance pol­i­cy before­hand to make sure you’ll be reimbursed.
Reim­burse­ment is always con­di­tion­al upon a refer­ral from your GP.

Whichev­er treat­ment you choose will begin with one or more intake interviews.
Only then will an appro­pri­ate method of treat­ment be recommended.

Inpa­tient care, out­pa­tient care and week­ly one-on-one ses­sions are com­mon frame­works of treatment.
Inpa­tient and out­pa­tient care usu­al­ly con­sist of indi­vid­ual and group sessions.
Some also include some form of move­ment ther­a­py, cre­ative ther­a­py or meditation.

Inpa­tient care gen­er­al­ly takes four to six weeks.
After which you will typ­i­cal­ly be asked to join the out­pa­tient or week­ly sessions.

Check afkickkliniekwijzer.nl (in Dutch) or zorgkaartnederland.nl (in Dutch) for facil­i­ties in your region.
Alter­na­tive­ly, you may choose to be treat­ed at a pri­vate clin­ic abroad.



Chem­sex health­care support

Here is an overview of the pro­fes­sion­als who are famil­iar with chems and sex, and with the relat­ed con­cerns and treatments.